But my social media accounts are public for a reason.
A while ago, I revealed through the above post on Instagram that I made this year-long resolution to be aware of the energy that I give at every interaction I make - whether it's a positive or a negative one, whether I'm making peace or starting a war. Unfortunately, I'm wired to think negatively - it's a huge part of why I'm really private about my personal life. Ever since that day though, when my bro made me realize that it's possible to always leave others feeling more uplifted than when they came to you, it really hit home. I decided to change.
It's been a little over a year that I made that resolution, and so many things have changed - my attitude, my outlook on life, my relationship with God and especially my relationships with others. I mean, I fell off the wagon more often than not, but at least on social media, where you have the luxury to think through dozens of times before you post something (as opposed to real-time interactions where you sometimes react immediately and forget to give yourself time to think things through first), I'm fairly proud of myself for staying positive.
It's a cliche to say that you can always find something positive in everything. Disasters happen and evil is always around. It doesn't work that way. Throughout my year-long experience, I've learned that what we think don't always align with how we feel. You can't just lie to yourself and hope it will magically change how you feel. On the other hand, the logical thing to say is, nobody wants to feel bad, to listen to nags and whining and complaints all day, and so only say something nice. But that's not it either. You don't want to sugarcoat stuff or tell white lies just to make others feel better with a poker face. For me, working through the negative things in my head has taken constant prayers, will and determination, and utmost humility in order to work through the labyrinth and out into the light, specifically the humble attitude to ask for wisdom. Because here's the thing: I couldn't have done it all by myself. Jesus is my source.
Of wise counsel, of strength, endurance, empathy, and even the motivation to change in the first place.
So far this has been a long, private journey. But with that Instagram post, it's become public. Along the same line, maintaining a public account on social media is that it's motivated a part of me to be more relatable in general. But the thing with social media is, even more so than real-life, with relatability comes disclosure (...naturally), and with disclosure comes nosiness (exponentially!).
I mean, look, if I want to say it like it is, it'd just be OHH I HATE KAYPOH PEOPLE GOT NOTHING TO DO MEH *with a thick Singlish accent toward the end*? With this blog post, I want to make my peace with social media in particular, and how you cannot escape the fact you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable in that every snippet of yourself you put online is subjected to everything from idle talk to criticism. Believe me, I have a ratio of 1000:1 negative thoughts to positive right now when it comes to people having nothing to do but talk about other people's personal affairs, as they exist both on the Internet and in real life. As much as I want to wallow in the thousand, right now I'm choosing to deliver the positive one instead: Light only shines brighter in the presence of even greater darkness. It's the very law of nature when it comes to exposure. The only difference is that you are a creature of both nature and nurture. The authority to allow your light to shine brighter or let the darkness dim it is on you.
And what with my year, I know I couldn't have done it without allowing God doing some serious work in me.
... It Can Be This.
All this time, my not-so-secret secret is keeping my eyes on Jesus.
And remember ... with the luxury of the online world, you can still think deliberately on what to say (and how to say it), what not to say, and what you don't have to say.
So far, it's going great for me, and if I can do it I believe anyone can do it too.
{ But Jesus spoke to them at once. “Don’t be afraid,” he said. “Take courage. I am here!” Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.” “Yes, come,” Jesus said. So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,”Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?” Matthew 14:27-31 NLT }